Being read to is a pleasure that most people will not experience after childhood. My father was an excellent reader. He did all the voices and never shied from long books (I’ve only ever “read” The Lord of the Rings trilogy with my dad pronouncing every word). Everyone should be read to as a child. But when was the last time you shared this joy with an adult?

Why My Husband is Reading to Me

My husband and I both love books even though we read at very different speeds. And with my terrible memory, by the time he gets around to reading something I loved, I’ve forgotten the best parts.

After buying the first book of Guillermo del Toro and Chuck Hogan’s The Strain for his Kindle, my husband fell in love with the book. The thing about the Kindle is that until I get one, I can’t read the book unless I steal his. And I’m still really devoted to paper books. When he offered to read the book aloud to me, I was gobsmacked and grateful.

We’ve spent subsequent evenings in the living room (that’s what we call the room without the TV, even though we hardly live in it) as he reads eagerly on. He’s pre-reading the book because he can’t contain his excitement, but also because it’s difficult to do a cold reading aloud. Some nights he reads to me when we get home and again after dinner. One night he read straight through for almost two hours until he was hoarse and I made him stop.

I am loving the attention and the time together. I’m loving our discussions before, during, and after.

How Being Read to is Affecting My Writing

Being read to is changing my relationship with language. I look at words day and night. I read. I edit. I write. I move commas and think about substituting words. I dread an especially long paragraph in a dull book and count pages until the end. I sneak peeks of endings.

I can’t do any of these things when my husband is reading to me. Instead, I watch his mouth forming the words and I encounter the words in a space where I can’t see them. I see the pictures the words are drawing (I’m sure Derrida or Foucault would have a more intelligent way of describing this). Having him read to me is helping me engage with the story (and especially the imagery) in a different way.

When it comes down to writing, I feel freer. I can focus more on what the words are supposed to do than on what they are. I know that I remember the trail of biological matter swept across the inside of that plane rather than any of the words that were specifically used. As a writer, words are my tools and they are important, but I feel like sometimes I oil and polish my screwdrivers without ever actually putting them to proper use.

The Problem with Books on Tape

The one way that many adults still experience being read to is through books on tape. My husband and I have shared the joy of being read to during road trips. We’ve listened to mysteries and classics from readers good and poor. Listening to The Lord of the Rings while crossing Utah even changed the geography I associate with the books.

Books on tape are a great way to experience a book when you are doing something else. Except that we are always doing something else. They work for me on road trips because there is the meditative quality of driving. But I can’t imagine listening to one in traffic. And when I’ve tried listening to books while gardening, my mind is equally split between the two tasks.

The problem with books on tape is a problem with the listener (me). In this busy, busy life, it’s hard to imagine allowing myself to sit still and focus on the story when I know my hands could be doing something else. When my husband reads to me, I can appreciate the gift of energy he’s putting into storytelling. I try to repay him with the gift of attention.

Reading to My Husband

I may have started this whole reading aloud thing last summer. We were waiting in a backyard hammock for a meteor shower and I was as restless as usual. I went inside and grabbed The Arabian Nights and started reading him stories. We haven’t gotten very far in the months since, but I hope soon to return the reading favor.

What I Want for You

When my husband started reading aloud to me, I justified the guilty pleasure with thoughts of all the readers Jorge Luis Borges must have listened to after he went blind. I wondered if that was part of the genius of his writing. But there should be no guilt in sharing a story and I’m eagerly awaiting my next chapter.

Here’s your homework. Ask someone to read to you. Or read to someone else. You don’t have to start with a full novel—a short story or poem will do. If you have kids, read to them but also try this with an adult. Recapture the magic of oral story telling. Reencounter language in its many forms. Relate to another person by share the special gifts of attention, time, and story. I hope reading aloud will bring you as much pleasure as it’s brought us.

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